To See or Not To See

A guy asked me to go on a trip so we could meet each other in person. We’ve known each other for more than a year now. He’s a funny, smart, talented man. I also admire his level-headedness on days when I am highly emotional and not thinking straight.

 

About 3 months after we met online, he already asked to see me in person. After that, he invited me again. I always have an excuse not to come see him.

 

For the record, let’s make one thing clear, I do want to meet him in person, too.

 

Now, he invited me again. After some lengthy discussion, I AGREED to come see him.

 

The problem is in the execution of the agreement. The bottleneck is stuck at who is going to book the ticket. In fairness to him, he promised to reimburse me when we meet. He promised to pay for all my hotel expenses, as well.

 

From his perspective: If he does my booking, it’s as if he’s forcing me to come see him. Secondly, he does not want to book my ticket, and lose money IF I change my mind.

 

From my perspective: I already agreed. To me, him booking my flight, seals that agreement. It means, I am bound by my honor to do my part of the agreement –that is to see him in person. I have respect for other people’s money, which means, it would be against my personal principles, if I don’t come see him after he paid for my flight. In other words, if he booked my ticket right after I agreed to see him, there is no way on earth that I will change my mind. 🙂

 

Of course, I can afford to book my own ticket. But here’s the thing, I’m using my own money. I can always change my mind! It’s my money after all. I can waste it if I want to. 🙂

 

Also, I don’t think it’s coercion if he’s the one to book my ticket. In the first place, I already agreed. All he has to do is secure that agreement. But he doesn’t see it the way I do.

Am I stubborn? Maybe meeting him in person is just not meant to be.

 

Oh well, I guess, we’ll be moving on with our respective lives.

 

I wish him well.

 

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FREE BASIC MUSIC LESSONS

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I’ve been asked so many times to give music lessons for a fee. I realized that money alone is not enough motivation for me to teach.

So why am I giving free lessons now?  I believe in giving back. I do not consider myself “expert” in this field, but I do have something to share. If you can read, you can count and you like music, these lessons could be for you. As of now, wala munang kids. Perhaps during summer, I could give music lessons for kids.

If you like to learn basic piano or guitar, send me an email clairecanoy@outlook.com.   Kuwentuhan mo ako:

  1. Bakit gusto mo matuto?
  2. Bakit dapat kitang turuan?
  3. Kapag marunong ka na, ano gagawin mo?

In other words, you must convice me. If I don’t like your answers, you will not hear from me. No hard feelings, OK? 🙂

BTW, this is not entirely free. Prepare to pay the handouts.

RISE Christmas Party 2014

R.I.S.E. Ministries

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Dear Friends and Supporters of R.I.S.E. Ministries,

RISE will be hosting its 2nd Annual Christmas Party on December 6, 2014 at 3:00PM for the benefit of a group of children from Opra, Cebu City.

You are welcome to join, meet the children, and have a fun-filled afternoon with us.

Please pray for us and help as we plan to give each child, a loot bag, filled with groceries they can take home to their families. Each loot bag for one child costs, 250 Pesos only. It’s not much, but it would certainly make them smile.

To share happiness and the Christmas spirit to as many children as you want, please send us an email at riseministries2013@gmail.com.

Thank you for your generosity!

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Musings of a VBS Director

God did it again! 11 teams. 11 areas. 39 volunteers. 355 precious children. God scored another victory for us. He completely turned around what looked to be a hopeless situation.

When we started vacation Bible school (VBS) last week, we had nothing. The church funds for the project were not available. There were no materials or workbooks. Pledges from people did not come in.

What was I thinking? Not much. Prior to the VBS week was a training week for the academy teachers. My concern was mainly how to get all the teachers to train.

Some were thinking of canceling the event. Some were fearful. But I had a back-up plan in the event that we do not have teaching materials -I was going to write the lesson plans. The thought that I’d be writing lesson plans felt like my brain was going to dry up. How long has it been since I wrote lesson plans? 11 years! Great! I haven’t seen a shadow of a lesson plan in 11 years!

This is only my second year as a VBS Director and I always have this doubt at the back of my mind. Am I cut out for this? I recalled the last year’s VBS. It was also victorious. Did I have alot of money back then? No. Was I a better strategist and planner back then? No. Now? Not even now.

There were many times I foolishly think that the success of any particular project I lead, is in my puny hands. Sure, I may have some skills and a functional brain, but God was quick to intervene. He deliberately pushed me to the edge where I can no longer depend on my skills or what little knowledge I have. It was incredible how God reminded me that this is His work and I’m only an instrument. It was a process where He made sure He gets all the credit and the glory.

4 days before the VBS, the materials arrived -director’s manual, instructional dvd, etc. Clearly, God was saying, “Go on! Go forward!”  Thank you ate Norlene Estenzo for lending us the materials.

So we stepped out in faith. We had a plan, but God’s plan was so much better than our plan. As soon as we acted in faith, God’s hand started to move mightily and it led us to achieve what He wanted us to achieve.

I’d like to acknowledge the people who came together as a team:

Thank you volunteers. Thank you for volunteering your time and efforts and even your money. Thank you for staying up late at night to study your lessons and prepare the activity materials. It was not a perfect team considering the different personalities and preferences, but you were there and you worked your best. Thank you! A big thank you also goes to the host families. Thank you for preparing snacks for the children and lunch for the teachers out of your own pockets throughout the 5-day event. Thank you, too, for the cash contributions. Thank you for being generous. Your financial assistance became part of the workbooks, the daily fuel of the cab, the fare and snacks of the children. The cab drivers where also a great blessing! Thank you all for being available to work. Parents, thank you for allowing your children to be a vital part of this event. Thank you! Thank you!

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On the 5th day, we held a graduation program at the church. I can barely hear my own voice over the microphone. It was a ruckus! And I mean that in a positive way. The kids had fun. (Sorry for the poor pics!) There were group singing presentations and comical skits.

Thank you to the sponsors of the snacks -pancit bihon, macaroni soup, and the refreshments. Thank you so much!

Most importantly, we were able to plant the seeds of God’s saving grace in the hearts of each child. They have all professed to have accepted Him as their Lord and personal Savior but only God sees the true condition of each soul. We do what we can, but only God can truly change a heart. We plant, we cultivate, but only God can give the increase.

To God be the glory!